What causes some kids to become ‘bad’ though they’ve been raised with good parenting skills?
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February 16th, 2010 at 12:33 PM
There have to be many other things out there that we do not fully understand that influence children—the same as adults. Many children are followers and tend to follow others who are not so well grounded in good parenting. They all have to find their place and many will do that through trial and error.
February 16th, 2010 at 6:00 PM
If the child becomes “bad” then the parenting skills were not ideal for that child.
Moderation is key, so some say don’t punish, some say do, but the real answer is to punish sometimes, but not all the time, and to use various methods. If you do the right things at the wrong times then it isn’t really good parenting, although on paper it may look fine. And each child’s needs are different. It isn’t one size fits all.
February 16th, 2010 at 10:04 PM
Those kids don’t go ‘bad’ due to parenting skills, they rebel because they’ve been sheltered and controlled too much.
Remember, good parenting doesn’t always equal lots of punishment; that’s only part of the equation. A parent who punishes too much doesn’t have good parenting skills any more than the parent who never punishes at all does.
February 17th, 2010 at 12:13 AM
yes. Because overbearing mothers tend to raise children who see the need to rebel and do what they want. I have found that a little leniency goes a long way. Just make your child feel like to you his/her thoughts really do matter. Children who are raised like that usually turn out bad. They could become killers or thieves, (look up the mass murderer triangle) or best case scenario, when they leave home they don’t come back.
Now I am positive you are just watching out for your children and love them to death, but they don’t see that as kids. You have to let them experience life, and if they make a mistake now they will learn not to do that later. Now I’m not saying ice cream for dinner or anything, just cut them slack.
February 17th, 2010 at 4:49 AM
there’s a lot more to how a person turns out than just how they are parented, or all siblings would turn out the same. people have different temperaments, different affinity for risk-taking, different friends providing different kinds of peer pressure, different experiences, different academic paths (which can lead to discouragement for some kids), and so on. some kids are quicker to anger or being a follower or less focused than others.
parents matter but they are definitely not the only thing that does.
February 17th, 2010 at 9:36 AM
Some kids who have both there parents ,and are raised good and brought up right , and have everything they could possible want or need . be bad because thay whant to be cool or try to fit in . or thay venge out for people to like or be afrad of them if thay could only see what there capable of as them selfs.
February 17th, 2010 at 10:42 AM
My wife an I been foster parents for 15 years. We had all boys. all around the same age.Once they reached 16 they turned on us after giving them the time of there life. They had everything any kid would want an than some. Yes I would say they were spoiled, but from what came from,you have no idea. On boy was removed after going after me, we had him since he was 12. We had twins who with us since they were 7. CPS came in and took them. They wanted to get bac with there birth mother in which one boy made contact several years ago with her. They set me me up as if i was abusing them. Sure they were punished but never abused. They were always treated as our own. Loved no matter all the trouble they got into. We were strict but as they got older we let them try on there own. I still do not regret the way we raised them. They stil did not get back with the birth mother but im facing charges. Go figure..
February 17th, 2010 at 4:15 PM
They weren’t really raised with good parenting skills. There wasn’t intervention when they went astray during the teen years. When one really looks into the past of these types of kids, the skeletons start to fall out of the closets.
February 17th, 2010 at 5:56 PM
Could just be their personality or how their friends act might have influenced them. Also, it seems that when kids are very sheltered their whole life as soon as they turn 18 they go wild because they are actually being exposed to the real world.
February 17th, 2010 at 6:29 PM
They are tired of being controlled and rebel