Comments on: What Option Are There Other Than Adoption, That Will Give The New Parents Irrevocable Rights?

By: janna w

janna w — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 21:15:03 +0000

No once guardianship is given up by the 2 biological parents they cannot be gotten back. Once a child is given up for adoption no contract has to be honored by the adoptive parents. Adoptive parents are legally entitled to determine what is in the best interest of the child. That means if they think for any reason it would be harmful for their child to see or have contact with the natural parents they have the right to dishonor any agreement even if they agreed to an open adoption. It doesn’t matter what the reason is. 2 people make a child, not 4, and only 2 people can be legal guardians of a child.

By: mom1

mom1 — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 19:13:50 +0000

None in some states and some states have permanent guardianship which cannot be revoked.

By: me40

me40 — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 18:50:26 +0000

it’s called joint custody but placement with the parents whom are not birth. I have joint custody with placement of my son then the birth mother has joint custody and dad has visitation. its not permanent unless u as the birth parents r willing to stay out of the lives of the other parents. It works great for us cause the parents act like my sons sibling not the parents but he knows that thats his birth parents.

By: Opedial

Opedial — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 12:22:58 +0000

No adoptive parent will be interested in a shared parent model. It just won’t work.
I hate to be a naysayer, but althought i was open to open adoption, I would not have adopted if the parents kept their parental rights. (given the personal experiences of my children with their First parents). I would have just remained a foster parent to other children and done my part there.
This is not the answer, getting rid of uncessesary adoptions is.

By: Corn is not dog food! No wheat!

Corn is not dog food! No wheat! — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 10:22:03 +0000

The same visitation that works for divorced parents will work for adoption arrangements.
Just like court ordered visitation, you put all the “rules” in writing that everyone follows.
Example: Drop off times, who gets what weekends, etc.
Seems simple to me.
Of course, not this won’t work for everyone, and not everyone wants a situation like this, but it could at least be an option.