Both mothers and fathers having 50% custody of their child(ren)? Presuming that both parents are fit, present and able which is the majority of parents.
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July 13th, 2010 at 12:10 AM
It is a must. I don’t know why anyone wouldn’t want to be part of their child’s life or why a judge (which is often what happens) would award more time with one parent over the other if both are fit.
July 13th, 2010 at 6:15 AM
I think it sounds Solomonic. “Let’s just get a sword, and cut this kid right in half!”
July 13th, 2010 at 9:41 AM
It’s OK with me!
July 13th, 2010 at 1:26 PM
I believe all children deserve these things:
Two parents that love their children
A HAPPY childhood.
Parents that can agree that what they do is in the best interest of their child/ren.
If the above criteria is met, and there is no disruption to the child/ren with regard to friends, school, and activities it can work.
All children should have the luxury of having both mother and father to raise them…
July 13th, 2010 at 1:29 PM
You don’t have to have 50/50 physical custody to share parenting duties.
I believe children need a permanent home base – shuttling between two homes on a weekly basis is disruptive and stressful. But children who live predominantly with one parent will always benefit from having the other parent involved in their lives on a daily basis.
Unless the non-custodial parent is unfit, they should be encouraged to participate in all of the children’s activities, school events, homework, etc. Every second weekend visitation is not enough.
July 13th, 2010 at 4:06 PM
I have refused to give my daughters father such an arrangement. My daughter is 6, her father moved out when she was 3. I told him then that I would never ever get into a my weekend/ your weekend arrangement with him. Instead I have given him a room in my house and he is allowed to stay over 2 nights each week.That way she has the continuity of all her stuff in her home all the time. Of course, this only works if the parents can get along well enough. I think it is deeply disruptive and damaging to a child to have to uproot and spent time at their father’s house every other week.
July 13th, 2010 at 7:11 PM
I think it’s ok if both parents are on the same page with discipline and scheduling. You know so that the child doesn’t notice much difference in the two homes. Also the exchange from parent to parent must always be cordial. Often time parents split up on bad terms and they tend to forget that this child is used to seeing mommy & daddy. Bitter feelings in a custodial relationship are never good.
July 13th, 2010 at 9:29 PM
It’s not bad.
However the parents should refrain from putting each other down in front of the child.
This can really have an adverse effect on a kid.
I know…. my parents did that to me.