I am writing an editorial and need some reasons why adoption is important. I have a sister that is adopted and think it is very imporant in some cases.
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February 27th, 2010 at 2:55 PM
It gives a child a home that needs one.
It, sometimes, makes room for another foster child to have a loving family until hopefully that child can return home.
February 27th, 2010 at 6:18 PM
As an adopted child I know adoption is good because it gives a loving supporting home to children in need of it. It gives a better chance at life to people who may never had gotten one. Yes there are some bad people out there, but there are even more who genuinely want a child to raise, love and give a better life to.
If it wasn’t for my being adopted i would have never met my husband or had my daughter.
The problem is not adoption itself it is the social system that we entrust these poor children to. There needs to be stricter guidelines for foster and adoptive parents.
February 28th, 2010 at 12:01 AM
it can give a home and family to children who dont have one
it can give a good home and family to children from abusive homes
it can give LOVE to neglected children who have never known love
international adoption can rescue children from institutions where they are neglected and beaten and starved
it can make children safe from abusive parents because you properly have new parents and a new name, so they can’t get you/find you. sometimes – as with me – its like a witness protection programme. sometimes children NEED a new identity.
in the case of open adoption you get twice as many relatives – hooray
February 28th, 2010 at 4:52 AM
My mother could not have children so she adopted after several misscarriges….I was born to a teenage mom who didnt speak english had another child and was on government assistance (food stamps, medical the whole nine yards) and born in a hospital in the projects that was used to treating gun shot wounds not delivering babies…..my family (adoptive parents) gave me the life that I never could have had I would have been a completely different person….I am curious about my birth mother but I don’t think id like to meet her I love my family and my mom and my dad I feel like an angel delivered me to them when they had no hope for having a child I went to better school grew up in a good neighborhood vs. the hood. plus I am so loved by my family I don;t know if I would have gotten that but I know my birth mother loved me becuase she gave me up and that means she wanted something better for me she loved me enough to give me the life she could never have I knew I was adopted since I could remember I think it made me a better person that I owed it to my birthmother to become all I could be I didn’t want to become a teenage mother or a wannabe like some people in suburbia I took full advantage of what was given to me a new life and respect myself and have tried to not mess up becuase if I wanted that life she could have kept me but she wanted better for me so I know that made me more grateful for life and respectful to my parents…I respect her for that even though she may be a stranger on the street to me…..Hope to Help you!
February 28th, 2010 at 7:57 AM
You have to define “good”. The fact that adotion needs to occur in some cases is NOT good. That children have lost their parents is NOT good.
But, in cases where this not good thing has occured, adoption can be a way for children, who have NO OTHER OPTIONS, can be adopted into a family, and learn how to love. God that sounded corny. Let me try again. ‘When children whose parents do not or cannot look after them, who have no capacity to parent, but who HAVE tried, adoption is “good” for the children to have a family. So in our case, it is not good that our chilren had to go through a few years of of really bad times only to find out mom could nto take care of them. But it is good that adoption was an available mechanism for them to get their parental needs met, and for us to have our parenting needs met. God that sounds clinical, let me try again:
Adoption comes from loss. Always. There is nothing good about that.
Once loss occurs, adoption can be a place for which children can heal in a loving family environment. Much of my parenting as an adoptive mom involves helping with grieving.
What is good is that given the loss the children had, and the loss we had in our lives that we could come together as a family. As much as I love my kids, if I had a time machine and could have saved them their early years pain and things could have worked out with their First family, I would give it up for them.
All of what I say is for foster adoption, I am not a fan of private adoption and don’t believe in pre-birth matching!
February 28th, 2010 at 12:17 PM
I and my wife have adopted 4 boys from Eastern Europe (Ukraine). They faced bleak futures in a poor country where 1 of 7 commit suicide after being released from the orphanage. 60% of boys turn to crime and 70% of girls get caught up in prostitution. Alcohol and drug use is rampant. I did not steal my boys from anyone, they were abandoned and abused by their birth parents. I have given these boys a chance at life. I do not ask for praise, but it is hard work and expensive. I do it willingly. They know they are adopted but they are loved, and they are wanted. My wife and I make good money, we could be living fabulous lives doing whatever we want. Instead we bust our butts to raise these guys and love them. That is why adoption is good, because it gives hope to the hopeless, a sense of being wanted to the unwanted, and love to the unloved. Would you love your sister any more if she was your “biological” sister? I think not. I love my boys with all my being, no father loved his children more. What more is there in life?
February 28th, 2010 at 7:13 PM
When a child genuinely needs a home, of course. When it’s actually a social service for children
Unfortunately adoption today is more about plonking down your $30,000 to some ‘facilitator’ to hunt down and arm-twist some poor soul into thinking she’s unworthy of raising her own child so they can make a buck
February 28th, 2010 at 9:14 PM
None, adoption isn’t necessary. Legal guardianship works just as well with the added bonus that the child retains their identity.
February 28th, 2010 at 9:14 PM
well if somebody who wont be able to take care of the baby has a baby and wants the baby to have a good life
February 28th, 2010 at 11:22 PM
It can provide a home and family to a child that needs one.
March 1st, 2010 at 5:51 AM
Adoption isn’t important, isn’t necessary, and should be abolished.
Adoption is nothing more than a legalised lie.
I suggest you read some of the links and book listed at http://7rin-on-adoption.dreamwidth.org/t… to find out just how devastating adoption can be (please note, I did say can be, not always is).
March 1st, 2010 at 7:54 AM
“adoption” and “good” in the same sentence??
Um, actually, I can think of none. The ones mentioned by others are excuses to take another’s child… not reasons why adoption is good. There are plenty of other ways to help and assist children who need help and stability without adoption.
Sorry, adoption is not good. Its cruel.
March 1st, 2010 at 9:46 AM
i think if the child’s parents chose to give up rights or have them terminated by the state adoption is necessary and can ultimately be the best thing for the child. alot of children in the state’s care need loving homes and someone that cares for them and is willing to put “genetics” aside. alot of families i know have foster and adopted children and i am a foster mother myself. i love my foster daughter no matter what. and that is what she needs more than a person called mom or dad she needs love and stability. hope i helped. i don’t understand why people are so against adoption. they must have had bad experiences.
see my question at http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;…
thanks and good luck on your paper.
March 1st, 2010 at 11:33 AM
some people who want children can’t have them for whatever reason. if adoption wasn’t possible then where would all the unwanted children go! If I hadn’t been adopted i would have grown up in some dingy orphanage so as far as i am concerned adoption is fantastic.
March 1st, 2010 at 4:55 PM
1. Helps the child (socially, ect.).
2. Maybe saves his/her life..?
Base off of that. :]
March 1st, 2010 at 7:09 PM
It gives kids a job for 18 years.
March 1st, 2010 at 8:27 PM
There arent any
March 1st, 2010 at 11:54 PM
i think it is good because someone could be saving a child from a life of hardship or abuse!!!!