My husband and I have infertility problems, I have PCOS and he has low sperm count and low motility. We have been seeing a fertility specialist, but we feel like this is not what God wants us to do. We feel like we are supposed to adopt. How can we find a birthmother outside of an adoption agency? We are christian people, with alot of love to give a child, and I assure any of you, the child we adopt will not ever want for anything. Please, anything that you can help with, will be greatly appreciated. Thank you so much in advance for your time…

For example, my husband has never fed a bottle to either of our children or stayed up with them when they were sick. I really haven’t slept in 3 years.He works a stressful job and sees my job as a stay-at-home mom to do the bulk of the parenting. My problem is that I don’t EVER get a break. I don’t even get 1 hour a week to myself.
The obvious answer is to ask him to pick up the slack when I want to go do something & in turn let him get out too. He says he is too uncomfortable and won’t know what to do while I’m gone. At the same time he doesn’t want to learn how to fix a bottle, etc. He says he has never been comfortable around babies but he feels sure he will be more comfortable with them when they are older. In the meantime I’m so tired I collapse in bed each night with no quality of life. Babysitters are not an option I’m comfortable with. I do have some family who could sit with them and let me get out but it makes me resent him for not being willing to try to parent.

How can I raise a normal child (not troubled) even if my husband and I are separated and on shared parenting arrangement