I have spoken to an adoption attorney and she says the hardest part of trying to adopt is locating a young lady who wants to put her child up for adoption. I am 38 years old and my husband and I have tried and tried for years, been through fertility treatments and nothing has worked. I just don’t think I will ever get pregnant. We are so ready to be parents, but I really don’t know how/where to start looking. Any advice would be appreciated.

I’m talking about the occasional case of a young woman who somehow ignores a pregnancy until a baby suddenly arrives. This often ends in tragedy when the girl panics and abandons the child. What influences could lead to this behavior?
1) On a small scale – what sort of family dynamics might she have, what sort of personality, etc. What might pre-dispose a young woman to ignoring a pregnancy?
2) On a larger scale, is our society somehow leading to this problem? Is there such shame involved with teen pregnancy? Is it a lack of resources for mothers? Is it an emphasis on career over motherhood? Or, could it be an emphasis on avoiding abortion? Any and all ideas are welcome.