Should Children Under Adoption Have The Right To Accept Or Deny A Same-sex Couple From Adopting Them?
Just a point my brother and I came across.
I’m neither, for, nor against Gay marriage, but my brother is against. And this is a question, concerning how Same Sex couples, cannot reproduce together (themselves only), turn to adoption.
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February 24th, 2010 at 1:20 AM
This is a very good question. Here are my thoughts.
1) Many children up for adoption are too young to speak for themselves, nor would they know what is meant by the question.
2) So many people are siding with the Gay, same sex idea, that they forget the advantages of having parents who are male/female. Which lets face it, the gay person had or they would not be here to dispute any of this!
3) Having a mother and a father help us to develop and understand the workings of a female and a male human in too many ways to put on here.
4)So that leaves it up to the adoption agencies who have more say than any of us. If a gay couple is allowed to adopt,
than I only hope that for a child who is 2 years and older and who has known what it is like to have a mom and dad,
consider no for them.
5)I guess if it is to be, then from birth to 1 year would be allowed in my book only!
February 24th, 2010 at 3:09 AM
Four states now deny adoption through domestic, international, and foster care to both gay couples AND single parents. In Arkansas alone, this has disrupted 12,000 children’s lives and families. Since many thousands of children have relatives who want and love them, the primary choice before group homes is generally extended family members….but these new laws have stopped grandmothers, aunts, older siblings from adopting OR fostering their own family member….and forces children to remain in group homes until a straight, married strange couple sign up to foster or adopt them. Guess how often that happens?
Children and their natural parents should be the ONLY decision makers in this instance. If the child is already old enough to decide, they should have the most input as to where and how they are raised. If the child is an infant/fetus, generally, the natural parent decides/chooses the family they want for their child. What is wrong is when religious groups get involved and force state agencies to deny adoption to gay and single parents who are otherwise fully qualified to parent a child. Religious groups make up the majority of adoption agencies in this nation and the world….and they already have the ability to choose not to accept anyone they so choose as adoptive parents. Unfortunately, these 4 states—and several others who are nearing the same decision—have now forced the state to sign on to ban thousands of families from adoption….to our neediest of children.
3 million children are in the US foster care system.
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February 24th, 2010 at 6:40 AM
I know TWO children who currently have same sex parents, two gay men who have a thirteen year old boy, and two lesbian women who have two adopted girls from China.
The boy seems to have some difficulty with the situation.
The girls adores her two “moms’.
I am against gay marriage, but these two children are well cared for and loved. Too often children in traditional settings lack sufficient care and love.
In the end, provided they are not abused, these children can always RAIL at their adoptive parents in just the same way that ordinary kids do when they reach an age.
February 24th, 2010 at 8:58 AM
I don’t think this should apply to solely gay couples, as that would be discriminatory. If the child is at a conscious age, and has some decision making ability, they should certainly have a say in who adopts them, no matter what gender they are. Giving this ability only when the couple is gay, and not heterosexual, is discrimination.
February 24th, 2010 at 2:27 PM
No. Very young children have no capacity to formulate an opinion. As a matter of law, older children do not have a right to choose their parents. But the adoption process is generally rigorous. The best interest of the child is the primary guide. The sexual orientation of the parents is not (or should not be) a major factor in that calculus. The wishes of an older child would be.
February 24th, 2010 at 8:07 PM
That is an excellent question and it’s hard to answer as many of us are not in that position. My guess would be that many kids would just love to have someone love them and other kids might be confused.
What are you thoughts?
February 24th, 2010 at 9:16 PM
At what age is a child able to make an intelligent decision on this subject? I can see it now, judge asks the baby to take the pink pacifier for yes, blue one for no………
February 25th, 2010 at 12:54 AM
Children have no rights. There would not be so many children to be adopted if the sperm donors would be responsible.
February 25th, 2010 at 1:15 AM
Sure. They can also stay in an orphanage for the rest of their lives instead of getting accepted into a loving family.
February 25th, 2010 at 2:47 AM
I think the kid should have the choice, it can be very frightening for the young to see things like gay marriage.
February 25th, 2010 at 3:35 AM
I very much think they should be able to deny! There is no need to force something they do not believe on them!