I am 17 yrs old and am pregnant and do not want to give my baby up for adoption. My parents however do.
Do my parents have legal rights to force me to chose adoption?
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February 17th, 2010 at 4:43 PM
They cannot force you to do it and if they say they can, they are lying or misinformed. They CAN however kick you out or whatever. I applaud your decision to take responsibility for your child, as long as your reasons are mature.
As far as whoever said no guy will want you if you have a child… that’s horsesh!t. Trust me. Of course, you shouldn’t be thinking about that right now and whoever wrote that was pretty ignorant to even say it.
What you need to do is sit down and have an adult discussion with your parents. No yelling, no screaming. Tell them your plan for the baby (whatever it is) and for your life after the baby is born. If you are honest and are thinking about this in a mature, responsible fashion, they will see it and may reconsider helping you. If they don’t, talk with social services or whoever your agency is, and the baby’s father because you are going to need all the help you can get. I did it at 16, without having to go on welfare or any assistance but it wasn’t easy.
And also, parents tend to be very polarized at the beginning of a daughter’s pregnancy; they often thaw out later, after the baby’s born and decide they will help.
Best of luck to you!
February 17th, 2010 at 6:28 PM
Seek legal counsel.
February 18th, 2010 at 12:35 AM
at 17, no
However, they do not need to support your child and can turn you over to child welfare services which means when you turn 18 you are on your own.
You are in a very tough spot right now.
I would suggest because of your age, they are right and you will not be able to provide a good standard of living for your child at this time.
See an adoption councellor and think about your options
February 18th, 2010 at 4:04 AM
Probably not, however, they probably do have the right to tell you, “Fine, YOU care for the baby – not on our dime!” At 17 or at least at 18, they have NO legal responsibility to you any where in the USA, and if you keep the child, to not provide any financial or other resource support for you or the baby. I would strongly suggest, if you are keeping the baby, you think about the baby’s welfare and insure the father shares at least financial responsibility for the child. In the USA, there are legal support agencies that will help you do that. Check your local government agencies in the phone book or on line to find them.
February 18th, 2010 at 5:57 AM
no.
February 18th, 2010 at 8:32 AM
Check out the site below.
The answers say NO , but they dont have to be supportive and can throw you out when you hit 18. You need to have a very serious discussion with more than 1 social worker or other trusted adult to sort out what you will do in the future.
Is the guy going to stay with you ? will his family help support you ? will you be able to attand a college ?
Those are all things to think about.
February 18th, 2010 at 9:22 AM
if you wont sign the papers no adoption can take place. keep that baby and best of luck to you.
stay strong and keep your friends close for support. my prayers are with you. good for you for not getting an abortion. my prayers are with you. good luck
February 18th, 2010 at 9:58 AM
You can call birthright and they can tell you what you can do.
February 18th, 2010 at 12:24 PM
Your still one of their kids.. they are looking at the big picture not your selfish motivations “cause you wanna keep it.”
You will need a babysitter in order to finish school so you can support yourself, leaving a child with strangers is the worst thing you can do, and your folks don’t want to be stuck raising another 18 years of their lives gone.
Secondly, no matter how you think you will take care of the child, he/she will always be a big reminder of some stupid guy that you had sex with and who ran as soon as he found out you are pregnant.Even if you can get a paternity suit, dna thing going he will never make enough money to keep the kid in pampers let alone forumla, and school clothes.
Thirdly, you will always have ‘baggage” no matter how much you love a child it will be extremely hard to find a guy who is willing to marry you and take care of your baby. There will always be this ‘you can’t disipline MY child’ syndrome that will be a constant fight between you and him and guys can find gals that don’t have a child easily.
Fourth, you will be giving a family a chance to raise a child in a loving 2 parent atmosphere that won’t give the kid a complex cause he/she doesn’t have a Dad around.
Those are 4 good reasons there is a heck of a lot more!
February 18th, 2010 at 1:52 PM
No.
No matter how much pressure they use, they can’t do it without your consent.
February 18th, 2010 at 6:14 PM
I do not know the laws in your stav, However,er the baby’s father does have a say in this. They cannot force hthim to sign away his parental rifghts.I
February 19th, 2010 at 12:22 AM
no they dont have an rite am also 17 and i no once you get pregnant u have your own disscussion
February 19th, 2010 at 1:01 AM
I don’t think so but laws vary by state so consult legal aide which others free legal advicehttp://www.plannedparenthood.org/birth-c…
http://www.Birthright.org
maybe also be able to help with this good luck 2 u
February 19th, 2010 at 2:03 AM
no because its you baby plus it you gave birth to then it your and you have that option so tell your perents that its you baby to decide that ?
February 19th, 2010 at 8:33 AM
it depends on what State you live in.