Comments on: Adoption!?

By: Stacey

Stacey — Fri, 18 Dec 2009 19:43:22 +0000

You can use a lawyer for private adoption, if you know someone who wants to give you their baby…any adoption is long…1 year for the biological parents to change their mind in most states…usually public adoption has a long waiting list…you move up by doing foster care…they have to do a background check and such on you for adoption, the sooner you start the paperwork, the sooner it can happen, usually minimal income requirements…you can’t add an adopted baby to wellfare, but, you don’t have to be rich…it’s just an added bonus if you want to adopt privately.
Keep in mind you still can get pregnant, I know 3 people who adopted and got pregnant within months!

By: Haruhi

Haruhi — Fri, 18 Dec 2009 15:53:56 +0000

I myself have looked into adoption. Its a great thing to do when your struggling to have a child. it doesnt mean you can stop trying.
First things first. It all depends on where you want to adopt the baby. If you want a baby from China or Africa the requirements are different.
Yes you do have to own a home.
Yes there are requirements as far as income.
You have to be married for at least 2-3 years.
Some agencies prefer to have married couples in there late 20′s or early 30′s.
If you really dont want that much paper work and you find someone willing to give you their child then yes, they can sign over custody to you.
Although i feel that its safer just going to an agency. Only for the fact that people tend to regret things once they get older or think it through so they have every authority to take back their child even if they signed over the custody.
you can always look up information on adoption. Its not that hard and they do answer a lot of questions.
Make sure that the agency is well known. Beware fake agencies!!!
Best of luck.

By: kissyber

kissyber — Fri, 18 Dec 2009 14:47:51 +0000

I know your questions are about adoption but you are jumping the gun a year is not that long it took me 23 years to get pregnant. first of all see a fertility specialist first before you give up! I don’t remember everything about adoption but I know there are stiff rules and very expensive and the real hard part is that the parents have 5 years to change their mind.

By: Kelsey H

Kelsey H — Fri, 18 Dec 2009 10:09:40 +0000

Typically you need to be married for a couple of years, but it depends on the agency. Income need only be high enough to support a child, you don’t have to be Bill Gates or anything.
If an expectant mother decides to give you her baby, then yes, you can adopt that way. You will need an attorney at some point to get the papers through, but that’s generally cheaper than going through an agency. Adopting a child from foster care also tends to be cheaper.

By: De

De — Fri, 18 Dec 2009 05:25:38 +0000

Most adoption agency want you to be married 3 years. Someone could sign custody over to you but that would only make you a guardian and not an adoptive parent. With adoption, a new birth certificate will be issued and your names will be in the spot of mother and father. Income is not a big deal as long as its enough to support a child. As far as owning or renting, I think each adoption agency is different. This is generally info. You can do a web search on adoption agency and get more specific info from there. Good luck

By: seastarr

seastarr — Thu, 17 Dec 2009 23:14:05 +0000

Well, I am …younger than you (definatly) but I am adopted from South Korea. My parents said its a long process but worth it in the end!

By: StacieG

StacieG — Thu, 17 Dec 2009 17:06:35 +0000

There aren’t requirements about owning or renting or whether it’s a house or an apartment. You just need to be able to show that you have adequate space to add another family member.
The income requirements depend on your method of adoption. I think you’ll need to show a social worker at the very least and possibly an agency and/or birth parents that your income is adequate to support another family member on. Some international adoptions require a certain amount of income per family member (including the new one you’re adding), but it’s not required everywhere.
Generally an agency will want you to be married for 1 to 5 years, but that may depend on where you are, too, and where you’re adopting from. If you do a private domestic adoption where you hook up with a birth mother, it may be up to her discretion. If I was a birth mom, though, I’d want to see some longevity of marriage just so I know the child would be going to a stable family that is likely to stay together. (again, a social worker may have requirements to go by, too)
It might be possible to get custody of a child without going through an adoption. I don’t know. This might be another thing that depends on where you live.
My thought is to give your marriage a year, feel free to keep trying to get pregnant if you want and after a year if you still want to adopt, begin contacting adoption attorneys or agencies to see if you can move forward with it.
SG

By: parsonsc

parsonsc — Thu, 17 Dec 2009 16:47:03 +0000

TRY GOING TO ADOPTION.COM

By: Ontario_

Ontario_ — Thu, 17 Dec 2009 11:10:23 +0000

We have an adoption forum if your interested.

By: luckysad

luckysad — Thu, 17 Dec 2009 10:46:39 +0000

My husband and I are in the beginning stages of adoption through MA Deparment of Social Services. It is free through them and the classes you need to take are free (may be different in each state). Here you need to be 18, can be single, married, whatever. They do take down what you make but don’t seem to solely base it on this. They want to know you have the room for a child or children but don’t need to live in a house. Remember, home is where the heart is! I highly recommend looking into DSS…it’s just not for foster care. And once parents give up their rights, they can’t take the child back.